catch up.

soo i have decided i need to hop on the wagon! my personal goal is to not drink till vegas! the bad news is i am up 18 from my all time low. i believe that if i manage to stop the drinking on the weekends i can get my eating together and also get back on track with working out.

work is a whole new issue. I like my job and the people i work with are really great however i am feeling a bit like this job is a dead end. i don't want to change positions again so i am going to go back to school and then look in a couple of years after i get my phr and hr certifications.

thoughts i usually keep to myself

So if you see me heading out of the back door of the office with my ipod on and heading out to the sidewalk what do you think i am going to be doing? i am sure i didn't bring all the replacemnt badges and i certainly didn't bring yours that i got a month ago and emailed you to pick up. So please wait until i come back to my office and then ask me to give you your new badge.

thank you

there is a break in the battle

So most of you know we have been battling my hubbys ex for custody for the last year and a half. Originally she just wanted more than 50%. But when we got to court the judge thought both parents needed equal time if they were able to do it so he ordered exactly what we had drawn up before lawyers got involved. (mind you before the judge got involved our 50% was each weekend because she had to party.)

Here is some background on the ex, she has to party each weekend. She drops her daughter off at her grandfather’s house at least once a week when she only has her child 50% of the time. She was evicted 2 times since she has not been supported by my hubby. She has a college degree but works answering phones for 9 bux an hour because she isn’t motivated to look for something that will pay more. She chooses to have cable and internet and not to try to save money for a car. She is stuck riding the bus. The mass transit in Tucson is fairly poor and very time consuming. Basically she makes some severely poor decisions.

Then there was the battle over support, he had been paying over the state ordered amount since they split. The judge couldn’t order support because she didn’t have her financials in order when we went to the hearing last year. That was only because she hired her lawyer the morning of the hearing. She said “I never worked when we were together I had his baby, I don’t see why I should work now”. Umm as a side note she never married him, so damn it there is no alimony!

So it takes another 6 months of her dragging the whole situation out before it seems to be settled. We settle on the exact agreement we presented her with a year before. in the meeting she drops a bomb and says “I am moving and I am taking Alex with me”

So needless to say we tell her we are going to fight the whole move and we want 100% custody if she moves. So we hire a consoler to do a “relocation evaluation” it only cost $4000.00. Just as we knew would happen the consoler hands down indicates, in an 11 page evaluation of both households, that it is in the best interest of Alex that she stay in Tucson with us and that we are more involved in her life and that she would benefit more being with us.

So after another month of the ex determined to fight this in court she finally meets with her lawyer and apparently it didn’t go so well. They sent a letter to our lawyer and said she is withdrawing intent to relocate and everything is status quo.
YAY it’s over until she meets another sugar daddy online and decides to move. Only 18 months and $12000.00 dollars

update

so I am not going to even get started on the whole custody thing that my guy and I are going through with his ex for his daughter. but it is still a stress and we've been fighting about it for over 8 months. all we want is 50% time with her and to pay the appropriate amount. She somehow believes that it's like alimony and she gets some special consideration and deserves more. ugh its a mess let me tell you.
things seem to be escalating, the good thing is that I am getting married to the most wonderful man in the world on Saturday! its totally mind boggling. the planning and everything have been crazy but I am sure it will be beautiful!
the bad, sigh, we are closing the site I work in and I'll be losing my job. I actually have known for a week and I can't tell anyone till tomorrow when it is announced. I will be able to work till Christmas then I'll need to start pounding the pavement. its a terrible strain to know what is going on and not be able to tell coworkers and family.
so through all of this I have kinda dropped my good eating and stopped following WW. my commitment is to begin full force on Monday! my sister joined WW and she weighs in on Saturdays so we'll go together and I just need to get back into the habits I was in before. I am not sure how much damage I did to my diet but I am sure in the last 6 months I have gained about 10. I am sure I can rid myself of the weight fairly quickly. it will also make me feel much better to have alone time when I walk the hour after work. I have also decided this is where I am going to post all my progress! yay!

insane

so I do benefits for a company, I have an employee that went out on a medical leave of absence for surgery. this is the response I got from our disability group about wether or not this was going to be approved for disability:

"If surgery is for a gastric bypass or lap band, this is considered to be a elective surgery and it will only be approved if the medical insurance deems the surgery as a medical necessity. we need the copy of the letter from the medical insurance that deemed the surgery as a medical necessity"


I had no clue gastric was an elective surgery... I mean it, costs about 30 grand and I would think if anyone is going to mess with your guts (rearranging them) it should be a medical necessity. call me silly. apparently I have been losing weight the hard way.

updates

i guess i should post something. i just haven't been in a blogging mood, and since i have zero readers its just not that exciting.
my hot man moved in ! YAY it is really nice to have him close all the time. its also been great for my budget since i am not wandering to target to kill time anymore. whoohoo. i am dealing with the loss of personal space. its not that bad however i still have to get used to it. i think the thing that is hardest for me to adjust to is the fact we are really like an old married couple, very routine and predictable. i believe its necessary for the kids, mostly for his daughter. she is 6 and needs to know that when she gets home there are things we have to do and then to go to bed. children need structure and its our job to provide it.
in other news his ex was evicted and stuck him with a $1400 judgement so he has been paying that off. Some how she managed to get a govt agency to pay a month to get her in a new place, so April was paid by us, the generous public (aren't we nice?). it really sucks because he still over pays her child support and she still has no job but manages to go out to a bar 3 nights a week. i still just don't understand it. its totally off to me. i can't imagine no working for a month let alone 3. i hate that woman.
On the diet side... i am struggling to stay on plan, i am at goal and made it to life time but i am about 8lbs over what i personally want. and seriously 8 shouldn't be hard to lose some reason i am struggling with the self control. seems all i want is sweets and fatty foods, if i didn't know my cycle better i'd say i was PMSing. i know that's not till next week. something to forward to.
ok so now about my boy, i am the luckiest woman alive, he cleans!!!!! i hate certain things like .. well i'll be honest, cleaning. He has scrubbed the floors and they look awesome, he does the dishes too! he is amazing and i love being with him.

ramblings

yay i got my pinup girl tattoo colored on friday, looks pretty damn good. i am going to go get some pics done at the shop in a couple of weeks. i will post them here as soon as i can. i need to start thinking about the rest of my arm. grrr its so hard for me to visualize what i want.
in other news: we have almost finished cleaning out the spare bedroom for the boyfriend's kids. it looks like the official move in date will be right after vegas. we are waiting on the bunk beds to be delivered. but we took his daughter out and bought her a set of sheets and a comforter. his son is another story. i am hoping we can set him up soon. i am looking for another dresser for the bedroom, it absolutely breaks my heart to make them share a room but they really only have one night a week that both are with us so i am thinking it will be pretty minor and they shared a room the whole time before so hopefully one year will be do-able. if we stay at my place we are hoping to be able to buy our own home by next year. the important thing is really looking to the future. making up for lost time and past mistakes is the focus now.
Viva is only a couple weeks away and i am sooooo excited! this is the first year i am not totally crash dieting to fit into my vegas clothes. i can't wait to pack and see everyone.